A Fuller Explanation to a Certain Friend

I know, I know. I have Easter pictures, and they are delicious! Just you wait, and stop your nagging!

I wanted to quickly write this for a friend of mine who I recently had a conversation with that seemed to end on a wrong note. She was asking me if I thought it was appropriate for her husband to carpool alone with a girl to and from work. They have known each other a long time, and are good friends. They are both happily married, and the spouses all like and respect each other. They live close to each other, work in the same business complex, and this saves them both money.

Her sister, when hearing of this proposed arrangement, got upset and went into a long tirade of how inappropriate it was. My friend was telling me this to ask if I agreed with her sister or not.

I do. I very much do.

I wouldn't go so far as to pitch a big fight about it, but I don't find it appropriate and would not want my husband to even suggest such a thing, much less actually participate in it.

I think when I tried to explain my thoughts, this friend got a little offended thinking I was making a judgment on the status of their relationship. She got kind of cold in her tone, changed the subject, and shortly made an excuse to end the conversation entirely.

I was not. I was not making any suggestion about their relationship being weak or prone to infidelity. There is no part of me that thinks her sweet husband would ever be disloyal- but stranger things have happened and Satan is constantly looking for a way to wedge himself into happy and Eternal bonds. I, personally, would not appreciate or approve of this kind of arrangment no matter how much gas, money, or baby penguins are saved in the process.

Anyway, I know she checks this blog frequently, and I wanted to send her to my dear friend Brittany's blog who recently wrote a post about loyalty and fidelity that really touched me. She states what I was trying to convey to my friend in a much more eloquent and gentle manner. She is awesome like that.

http://mostlyprobably.wordpress.com/2010/03/19/2380/

I love my husband and I completely trust him- but never do I want him alone on a regular basis in an enclosed space with another woman. Even if he never got ideas, there is no way the other woman wouldn't. Ross is hot!