tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27671057.post3640062091543500449..comments2023-09-17T05:28:24.861-06:00Comments on Goodman's Corner: Battling the GuiltRoss & Amanda Goodman- but mostly Amanda :)http://www.blogger.com/profile/02597257765841792770noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27671057.post-37731591881485923002009-11-19T17:07:19.865-07:002009-11-19T17:07:19.865-07:00I know exactly how you feel! Pregnancy is really m...I know exactly how you feel! Pregnancy is really miserable, especially in the winter months.<br />Last year when I was pregnant with Josh, I was SOOO depressed and felt guilty about everything.<br />I didn't have morning sickness but I was always exhausted and overwhelmed with everything.<br />All I wanted to do was lay on the couch while the girls watched tv. We watched it for hours and hours and I always felt bad about it, but I was not up to doing anything else.<br />My house was a wreck, I was lucky if I got the laundry washed, let alone folded or put away.<br />I felt like I wasn't spending quality time with my kids or being a good wife.<br /><br />I'd feel better every time I remembered that I wasn't just "being lazy" or "neglectful". I was working on growing a person, and that seriously takes a lot out of you, especially when you are sick on top of that.<br />I did love being pregnant for the most part, and was definitely excited and greatful to be having another baby, but it really is hard work, especially with each pregnancy and you have children to take care of on top of the pregnancy. I was and am glad that pregnancy is a temporary state. <br /><br />You don't need to be impressing anyone with the way your house looks or how fancy your dinners are. You take care of you and the girls, the rest is not important and can wait. <br /><br />I hope you are feeling better soon! Pregnancy is really, truely rough! HUGS!Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04556300726256395132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27671057.post-83658319911033938902009-11-19T10:18:25.753-07:002009-11-19T10:18:25.753-07:00There is absolutely nothing wrong with you for fee...There is absolutely nothing wrong with you for feeling/acting this way. I'm in the same boat. Pregnancy gets harder and harder each time. Let your girls help you with some of the chores around the house, and make your bedroom the play room if you have to. there are a lot of things that they can do that are fun in bed with you. make forts, watch shows, read books, color etc. Take care of yourself first, and do what you can for others when you can.Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05456795470811555072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27671057.post-79469912395171361502009-11-19T00:08:29.462-07:002009-11-19T00:08:29.462-07:00(and when i wrote "helping loved" i mean...(and when i wrote "helping loved" i meant, "helping loved ones" ...oops! ;) lol)emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13657895549005020106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27671057.post-83255289469831571442009-11-19T00:07:13.136-07:002009-11-19T00:07:13.136-07:00i'm not married, pregnant, or ever had any chi...i'm not married, pregnant, or ever had any children, <br /><br />however, from what i've read here and with years of helping loved struggle with depression and other emotional problems/addictions, i'd say you and Heavenly Father make a pretty dinamic duo. <br />being able to have a couseling session with Him (be it in or out of the shower!) and discover so much about yourself and where to look for the steps towards better balance, acceptance, and peace is what we are here to learn! :) <br />there's nothing more important - and from the looks of it, you are doing an amazing job at that. <br /><br />love love love love LOVE you and your wonderful family! :)emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13657895549005020106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27671057.post-7559227443415531362009-11-18T16:41:25.572-07:002009-11-18T16:41:25.572-07:00The way you described your life right now is almos...The way you described your life right now is almost exactly how I felt about a month or two ago. I used to be so super productive, after finally getting the perfect grasp on handling my life and myself (which after having my first kid took a really long time.) And then bam, days later I am spending way too much money on take-out, forcing my family to eat garbage and basically live in a dump all while I laid around on the couch?? Who wouldn't feel guilty about that? But having another baby has brought my husband and I even closer than we've ever been lately and now that the horrid first trimester is over (hopefully you will improve a little!) I am probably happier than I've ever been. And is it because I have the capability of cleaning my house again? Not so much. More because I appreciate how my husband handled my pregnancy so far and just the overwhelming feelings of love that has brought to me. <br /><br />I'm so sorry that you really are having a rough time though, it can seriously be so hard!!Heidi @ Honeybear Lanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08648486220605431201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27671057.post-43261180076701130052009-11-18T15:58:26.158-07:002009-11-18T15:58:26.158-07:00I definitely understand. I'm not pregnant anym...I definitely understand. I'm not pregnant anymore but I'm definitely having a hard time with postpartum Tracie. My house hasn't been clean in ages. I look like a mess most days. I have been really struggling to be a mom, and I feel SO inadequate seeing all of my friends do a much better job. I finally admitted to myself that I'm suffering from PPD and I can't just "get over it" by myself. So I'm finally going to get some help.<br /><br />I think it's great that you're being honest with yourself and letting yourself be. :)Traciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05555164613524033553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27671057.post-49250069992193688622009-11-18T15:07:03.692-07:002009-11-18T15:07:03.692-07:00You are a smart lady.You are a smart lady.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10539120006700019088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27671057.post-57283838310018256092009-11-18T14:57:18.626-07:002009-11-18T14:57:18.626-07:00Amanda, i feel the same way. My house is in utter ...Amanda, i feel the same way. My house is in utter ruins and I have blinding migraine by the end of the work day.<br /><br />I am praying for you to feel better. Pregnancy is no fun at all. I'm constantly uncomfortable. I do not like it, but with that said, I am super excited to start this new chapter in my life. Just as you are. <br /><br />I love you so much and you are indeed a great and beautiful friend in my life.Michelle Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05306490497582544290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27671057.post-65741845472032949632009-11-18T14:35:20.167-07:002009-11-18T14:35:20.167-07:00Aw, Amanda, I'm so sorry. From the sound of i...Aw, Amanda, I'm so sorry. From the sound of it I do a third of what you would normally to in a day in a week. I wish you didn't feel guilty.<br /><br />Congratulations, though! I thought that's what you might have not been saying in that post a few weeks back. Poor girl. I wish I could make you feel better.Sarah Schroedernoreply@blogger.com